**When kids are crying/hurt, instead of distracting or fixing or reassuring, resonate with them.** [[Resonance with kids - video examples]] **When you want kids to do something, instead of using logic or justifications or identity statements to convince them, give them a heads up with some advance notice, and then a calm request, ideally with 2+ options.** [[Asking and telling kids to do things - video examples]] **When kids are playing, instead of asking them questions, telling them new things to try, teaching them, introducing logic, or explaining things, do this instead: sportscast with them (narrate their experience).** [[Narrating what kids are doing - video examples]] **Every couple months, do a choking relief practice drill so that you are calm and confident if needed.** [[Choking relief drills for kids - video examples]] **When kids are wanting help, instead of immediately helping, resonate and coach them.** (Unless they're majorly crying/overwhelmed) [[Coaching kids instead of doing things for them - video examples]] **When kids want something you don't want to give them, instead of focusing on why/logic/explanations/justifications, resonate with them and peacefully assert the boundary.** [[Saying no to kids - video examples]] **Reminder, when kids are upset, instead of using logic, use resonance.** [[Even more kid resonance video examples]]