**When you want kids to do something, instead of using logic or justifications or identity statements to convince them, give them a heads up with some advance notice, and then a calm request, ideally with 2+ options.** He didn't want to wear a diaper: <div style="max-width: 250px;"> <div style="position: relative; padding-bottom: 177.77777777777777%; height: 0;"> <iframe src="https://www.loom.com/embed/25239b356c214d2fb00a99ab4c9a3aa7?sid=ff7a64e1-30b7-4b5b-a17d-673fb4649250" frameborder="0" webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen style="position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%;"> </iframe> </div> </div> He wanted to keep playing at the playground: <div style="max-width: 250px;"> <div style="position: relative; padding-bottom: 177.77777777777777%; height: 0;"> <iframe src="https://www.loom.com/embed/334bc9fc7b374c7889b1991bdb7b24d0" frameborder="0" webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen style="position: absolute; top: 0; left: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%;"> </iframe> </div> </div> [[Parenting Practices]]: Go back to the main guide for more videos on this & other tools.