![[chris-barber-image.png|80]] I'm Chris, living in San Diego, from New Zealand, Australia, Stanford, and Santa Monica. Focuses: AI preparation & emotional regulation. > ![[matt-mochary 1.png|40]] "Chris is one of my favorite humans on the planet. Smart, doer and fun. But of course my view is very biased. I owe my entire coaching career to him, as he was the very first person to ask me to coach!" – Matt Mochary, coached the CEOs at Coinbase, Notion, Reddit, and managing partners at Benchmark, Sequoia > ![[griffin-choe.png|40]] "Chris and the thinkers he recommends have had an enormous positive impact on my life" – Griffin Choe, leading AI security efforts at Figma > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I have met none like him. I regularly think "what would Chris Barber do"" – Josh Singer, Founder of Eigen > ![[rafael-cosman.png|40]] "I've known Chris Barber for around a decade now and he is a great guy and someone that we are honored to have as an angel investor. Would definitely recommend working with him if you have the chance!" – Rafael Cosman, Founder of Protogon Research ### Emotional Regulation I made an emotional processing method called resonance. It's a way of speaking that helps others process their emotions and feel better. > ![[griffin-choe.png|40]] "it's been helpful for feeling more peaceful about work and future trajectory, in relationship with my girlfriend, and in relationship with parents" – Griffin Choe > "I just textbook resonated and it worked so well" – my sister > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I find it most useful in helping people deal with their raw emotions" – Josh Singer >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] "helpful before heightened situations like an exam, a presentation" – Ben Pan > ![[alton-sun.png|40]] "I'm regularly complimented on it and it has embedded itself into my language" – Alton Sun > ![[george-zeng.png|40]] "for me (1) it's wanting to make my partner feel emotionally validated. maybe a distant (2) helping me build trust and resonance in professional relationships" – George Zeng > "this shit works bro" – Justin Yang > ![[herrick-fang.png|40]] it's helped with "how to make myself feel better about which choices i wanna take" and "has helped me identify if i actually do/do not want to do something" – Herrick Fang > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I think it would drastically change the next year of our business." > – Josh Singer > "when people around me are not doing so hot i can help them more" – Justin Yang > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I use it 70% with partner, cofounder 5%, team members 20%, others 5%" – Josh Singer > "for me it's about unsticking emotions for myself and my friends when I am frustrated or not sure what to do about something" > – my brother >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] "I think it's one of the most useful skills I've ever learned. And I think it'll just get better and better." – Ben Pan > ![[nina-barber 1.png|40]] "I feel like IFS (internal family systems) and other stuff fell short, I understood the triggers but they didn't go away. But resonance once I was aware and had practiced a bunch was clear it was the path to reducing a lot of triggers" – my wife Nina I think the better people are at making others feel seen and emotionally regulated, the more fun the world is. ### Decision Making I think I've made a pretty good answer for making easy decisions that feel great. It's mostly resonance/emotional regulation, plus a few other steps. > "I think that's one of the most life changing things I've learned, how to reach peaceful preference between your subconscious and conscious mind" > "It's just been so powerful." > "I used to be someone who thinks a lot about everything. I'm very cerebral, very analytical." > "It's helped me find opportunities that other people aren't working on, that actually are very important to work on." >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] – Ben Pan, student at Stanford University > ![[maile-minardi.png|40]] "Peaceful Preferences are now my roadmap for all parts of my day here are a few small examples that FELT SO GOOD to choose" – Maile Minardi, Founder of Marketing Consultancy ### Parenting We have a few methods we love. The methods are mostly "get good at helping your kids with emotional regulation by resonating with them constantly." >![[nina-barber 1.png|40]] "I wish wish wish every parent knew this stuff" – Nina Barber, my wife and co-founder of the executive coaching marketplace >"For parenting I didn't desperately need a tool but I see now how there's a huge gap if you don't have resonance. I think about all the ways we connect with the kids because of resonance. The foundation of love and respect and connection because of resonance" ### How To Prepare For AI You may want to understand what's coming in the next few years, what to be worried about (and not), and how to prepare/thrive. Here are my interviews so far: [[Interviews]] ### About and Links I'm an entrepreneur/researcher. I co-founded an executive coaching marketplace for startups (let me know if you're a founder of a seed-series C startup and need help finding an executive coach), and founded a place for engineers to discover good startups to join (let me know if you need help deciding between startup job offers). To all my friends who help with my various random projects - thank you! Email: [email protected] On [Twitter/X](https://x.com/chrisbarber) I have recently started talking about AI preparation & emotional regulation.