![[chris-barber-image.png|80]] I'm Chris, living in San Diego, from New Zealand, Australia, Stanford, and Santa Monica. On [Twitter/X](https://x.com/chrisbarber) I have recently started talking about AI preparation & emotional regulation. > ![[matt-mochary 1.png|40]] "Chris is one of my favorite humans on the planet. Smart, doer and fun. But of course my view is very biased. I owe my entire coaching career to him, as he was the very first person to ask me to coach!" – Matt Mochary, coached the CEOs at Coinbase, Notion, Reddit, and managing partners at Benchmark, Sequoia > ![[griffin-choe.png|40]] "Chris and the thinkers he recommends have had an enormous positive impact on my life" – Griffin Choe, leading AI security efforts at Figma > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I have met none like him. I regularly think "what would Chris Barber do"" – Josh Singer, Founder of Eigen > ![[rafael-cosman.png|40]] "I've known Chris Barber for around a decade now and he is a great guy and someone that we are honored to have as an angel investor. Would definitely recommend working with him if you have the chance!" – Rafael Cosman, Founder of Protogon Research ### Emotional Regulation I made an emotional processing method called resonance. It's a way of speaking that helps others process their emotions and feel better. To learn it see: https://x.com/chrisbarber/status/1927854298513428992 > ![[griffin-choe.png|40]] "it's been helpful for feeling more peaceful about work and future trajectory, in relationship with my girlfriend, and in relationship with parents" – Griffin Choe > "I just textbook resonated and it worked so well" – my sister > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I find it most useful in helping people deal with their raw emotions" – Josh Singer >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] "helpful before heightened situations like an exam, a presentation" – Ben Pan > ![[alton-sun.png|40]] "I'm regularly complimented on it and it has embedded itself into my language" – Alton Sun > ![[george-zeng.png|40]] "for me (1) it's wanting to make my partner feel emotionally validated. maybe a distant (2) helping me build trust and resonance in professional relationships" – George Zeng > "this shit works bro" – Justin Yang > ![[herrick-fang.png|40]] it's helped with "how to make myself feel better about which choices i wanna take" and "has helped me identify if i actually do/do not want to do something" – Herrick Fang > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I think it would drastically change the next year of our business." > – Josh Singer > "when people around me are not doing so hot i can help them more" – Justin Yang > ![[josh-singer.png|40]] "I use it 70% with partner, cofounder 5%, team members 20%, others 5%" – Josh Singer > "for me it's about unsticking emotions for myself and my friends when I am frustrated or not sure what to do about something" > – my brother >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] "I think it's one of the most useful skills I've ever learned. And I think it'll just get better and better." – Ben Pan > ![[nina-barber 1.png|40]] "I feel like IFS (internal family systems) and other stuff fell short, I understood the triggers but they didn't go away. But resonance once I was aware and had practiced a bunch was clear it was the path to reducing a lot of triggers" – my wife Nina I think the better people are at making others feel seen and emotionally regulated, the more fun the world is. ### Decision Making I think I've made a pretty good answer for making easy decisions that feel great. It's mostly resonance/emotional regulation, plus a few other steps. > "I think that's one of the most life changing things I've learned, how to reach peaceful preference between your subconscious and conscious mind" > "It's just been so powerful." > "I used to be someone who thinks a lot about everything. I'm very cerebral, very analytical." > "It's helped me find opportunities that other people aren't working on, that actually are very important to work on." >![[ben_circular_noresize.png|40]] – Ben Pan, student at Stanford University > ![[maile-minardi.png|40]] "Peaceful Preferences are now my roadmap for all parts of my day here are a few small examples that FELT SO GOOD to choose" – Maile Minardi, Founder of Marketing Consultancy ### Parenting We have a few methods we love. The methods are mostly "get good at helping your kids with emotional regulation by resonating with them constantly." >![[nina-barber 1.png|40]] "I wish wish wish every parent knew this stuff" – Nina Barber, my wife and co-founder of the executive coaching marketplace >"For parenting I didn't desperately need a tool but I see now how there's a huge gap if you don't have resonance. I think about all the ways we connect with the kids because of resonance. The foundation of love and respect and connection because of resonance" ### How To Prepare For AI You may want to understand what's coming in the next few years, what to be worried about (and not), and how to prepare/thrive. Here are my interviews so far: [[Interviews]] ### Other links [[The friend iteration method for pitch decks and YC apps]] ### About I'm an entrepreneur/researcher. I co-founded an [executive coaching marketplace for startups](https://www.prismaticco.org) (let me know if you're a founder of a seed-series C startup and need help finding an executive coach), and founded [a place for engineers to discover good startups to join](https://www.breakoutlist.com) (let me know if you need help deciding between startup job offers). To all my friends who help with my various random projects - thank you! Email: [email protected] On [Twitter/X](https://x.com/chrisbarber) I have recently started talking about AI preparation & emotional regulation.